Quote of the Day: A true friend knows your weaknesses but shows you your strengths; feels your fears but fortifies your faith; sees your anxieties but frees your spirit; recognizes your disabilities but emphasizes your possibilities. – William Arthur Ward
These little guys will be 10 years old next week. When they were born, my oldest son was six, and my second son was two. We get more sleep, now, but those were exhausting times back then. I needed family support and friend support and good, old-fashioned advice and sympathy from all the Grandmas in the neighborhood.
In church last Sunday, the pastor’s message (at least the part that stuck in my head) was on the tests and trials of family and friends. It’s easy to be there for someone when the times are good, come to the celebrations, help them plan a party. Then, there are the times when it’s a little harder. The chaos of walking into a home filled with four small children takes a great deal of courage and energy. What about the times when friends and family are in crisis and they need a loving voice to say something needs to change. Or, they’re hurting physcially and emotionally. Can you be that rock for them when the waves of life are crashing over their heads?
Last week, we learned that President Obama wants to pass laws that allow a more open visitation policy in hospitals. What has been restricted to blood relatives and spouses, needs to be open to close friends and life partners. I was thinking, why does that need to be a law? Why would you tell someone to go away and not show love and support to their friend? What about the people who don’t have blood relatives to come take care of them and visit them? What about the people who aren’t married in the traditional sense? Why do we need laws to allow compassion and love in the time of greatest need?
People who love you need and want to be at your side whether you’re on your birthbed or your deathbed, as you experience the first breath of life, or hear the last. Theirs is the hand that reaches into the pit and pulls you up. Thank you, God, for the gift of friendship.
Journaling Prompt: Remember a time when you were in need and a friend was at your side. Write a thank you. Or, describe a time when you were there for someone.
Great post Mary. I agree on the law thing. We have many little brothers, little sisters, and Grandmas in OUR life that are not related to us. They are part of our Strength Circle and if I was sick, those ae the people I’d want around me. Good job 🙂
Thanks, Becky. I like that term, Strength Circle. Blessings!
FranticMommy nailed the wording Strength Circles are important and now more than ever it doesn’t always include your family. A lot of people don’t have family nearby or have family at all and who are they to decide who you consider blood? I have two amazing friends that when I need anything they are there for me, I would hate to know if they showed up at a hospital that I couldn’t see them. It just doesn’t make sense!!
Great post!
Beautiful post, beautiful pic. It’s almost funny all the things governments do ‘for our own good’, almost.
You are such a compassionate and encouraging person, I’ll bet you’re a great rock when others need you to be 😉
Thanks, Charmaine. I think my middle name is granite.
Thanks, Jen. I have several ladies in my sisterhood as well who don’t share my family bloodlines.
Love, love, love that photo! Happy almost 10th; my munchkins will be 9this year. So hard to believe!
That first year with twins is a killer (a blur, really), but it’s been such a rewarding journey 🙂
There are so many silly laws, it seems, that we are now having to make even sillier ones to get around them. Kind of ridiculous.
Thanks, Tara, when they were newborn I kept telling myself to focus and remember the sweet baby stage. Still trying to remember it.
This issue about hospital visitation is dramatized well in Gail Forman’s _If I Stay_. The MC loses her parents and sibling in a car crash, and the hospital puts up roadblocks keeping out close friends from this comatose girl trying to decide whether to hang onto life or just let herself go.
Anyone going through the difficulties of injury or illness needs all the support he or she can get, and frankly sometimes blood relatives are lousy at giving it. I’d for sure want my church family near if I were in the ICU!
Laurel, that book sounds so interesting. Thanks for your feedback, insight, and friendship.
Mary, since I know these sweet boys, this photo is even more sweet to look at. What precious little peanuts! Charmaine, I can attest to the fact that Mary is as solid as they come as far as In Real Life friends go. What you see here is what you see in person as well. Even though we live a state away, we see each other every couple months and it’s always a highlight of that particular week for me. 🙂 Mary, the Strength Circle idea is very powerful, and true!
I love that journaling prompt!
You were blessed with twins? How wonderful! I experienced ten seconds of sadness each time my sonograms showed just one fetus. I wanted twins so badly. Happy birthday to the boys!
I’m with you on the hospital visitation policy. What kind of society are we that we need laws to nudge us toward compassion?
Thanks for the food for thought!
I am blessed with a great friend who knows what I need before I do. It just doesn’t get any better than that.
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God bless ya and have a terrific Tuesday!!!
Roxane, the pleasure is all mine as we dine at Santa Lucia or Nichole’s. Hope to be there again soon!
Nicole, just be careful what you wish for! Course, the guys are best buds now, well, usually.
Nezzy, I think I need hardwood mulch, and more friends like the one you describe!
Mary, my heart is smiling at you right now. You have a knack for that you know – making our hearts smile. Thank you for your post and for being the wonderful friend that you are. 🙂
Shannon, thanks for the heart smiles. If I were in the ICU, I’d want you to be a visitor. But, maybe we could meet sometime under better circumstances.
Great post. You have no idea how much it touched me.
Mary, this is so true … friends are the family that you choose! I’m blessed to have family that I love — but even more blessed to have found friends who are family, too.
Sarahjayne, glad my words touched you.
Cynthia, we have many chosen family members.
What a beautiful post. I can’t imagine how anyone gets through life without friends!
Thanks, Lisa & Laura, and you have the special bond as sisters and friends.
Great post sistah, love ya!
Oh, JeMA, I so blessed to have you in my sisterhood.
Mary, THANKS for the priceless photo, the poignant words.
Thanks, Gloria, for liking me when I didn’t like myself, when, honestly, I wasn’t a bit likeable; most of all, for showing me Christ loved me. No. Matter. What.
Patti, what a beautiful thank you and tribute to your friend.
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Little ones become big in our hearts and even bigger in body so quickly. Thanks for sharing. Roland
Sweet sentiments, Roland. Thanks for connecting.
Your angels are truly beautiful, Mary. But even beautiful flowers need water and care and you articulated perfectly the work involved. Why this law exists is beyond me. Some people don’t have blood relatives that qualify. Why should a law deny a sick or dying person to have the gift of love/and or friendship??
Amen! Kittie.