Quote of the Day: [Walking] is the perfect way of moving if you want to see into the life of things. It is the one way of freedom. If you go to a place on anything but your own feet you are taken there too fast, and miss a thousand delicate joys that were waiting for you by the wayside. Elizabeth von Arnim
Today is another group posting of the Insecure Writer’s Support Group! Time to release our fears to the world – or offer encouragement to those who are feeling neurotic. If you’d like to join us, click on the tab above and sign up. We post the first Wednesday of every month. You can also visit the founder Alex J. Cavanaugh for more info and links.
Question of the Month: Is there someone who supported or influenced you that perhaps isn’t around anymore? Anyone you miss?
I don’t know if I have a good answer for this one. I’m constantly seeking community in my writing, music, and theater. I’ve had moments of great connection and inspiration, and I’ve had times when I feel like I’m alone in my own space and head. One of the best moments was when I was in Grand Rapids, MN. I connected with another writer, Lois. We met a couple times a month at a coffee shop and shared our writing. I had two little kids then, and I brought baby Zach with me sometimes, and both boys when we met at her home. We enjoyed sharing our love of reading and writing, family, and friendship. I wish I had a close companion right now. I have a writing group, though, and that’s good. It ebbs and flows. I know many people are suffering from the isolation that this pandemic has caused.
I chose the above quote of the day because my theme for 2022 is WALK. I live in a very cold part of the world in January. In fact, the temps are well below zero today. So, actually getting out to walk is a challenge. The writing life is also a journey with peaks and valleys. I was on a high after completing my 10-minute play, Extra Shot, and sending it off to be considered for a 10-minute play festival this Spring. I haven’t heard back, yet. In the meantime, I sent it to someone who reached out to me about a year ago to critique a couple of his plays. He sent back a negative response to my play. So much so that I feel like I’ve completely failed in telling this story. I failed in empowering my character and insulted people who have a reading disability. As I process his criticism, I accept that I could have done better. I over-emphasized the reading disability, and I could have given the female character more of the action in finding her own solution. I’m not sure I even want the play in the festival, now. I can’t stop thinking about it, picking away at it like a nasty scab that won’t heal.
So, my insecurities are high right now. I’m too sensitive to handle the criticisms of the world.
Go. Create. Inspire! And, be kind in your critique of other people’s art.
Journaling Prompt: Write about a time when criticism shut you down and how you rose above it.
Good luck with your play. Getting harsh criticism can derail you fast. I try to remember it’s just the opinion of one person. The next might not see it the same way.
Thanks, Meka. My mind knows that, but my sensitive soul takes each critical word to heart.
Criticism can be tough, especially when it lacks anything positive or encouraging. But you completed a project and submitted it, and that’s always a huge win!
Thanks, Yvonne. I’ve been trying to focus on that.
Criticism always hurts, but we can’t improve without it. I belong to a writing group and they always challenge me to do better. Usually I lick my wounds for 24 hours and then get on with things. They are right. I can do better. And so can you!
Thanks, Liza. I have a need to be perfect from the start. An impossible goal.
I’ve lived in very cold places so I sympathize. Lois sounds pretty wonderful.
Yes. I miss our writer dates.
Ignore the negative feedback and wait for an answer from a place that matters.
We’re not that cold, but some mornings it’s tough to take my walk when it’s below freezing.
Thanks, Alex. Good advice. I might venture out into the cold. Fresh air does a body good.
Glad you’re walking. I’ve been on the trails for over two years now and now that I’m addicted, I’ll probably keep that up for as long as I can.
I envy your daily walks in nice weather!!!
I love to walk too but ride an exercise bike in the cold months. The problem with the criticism may have been with how it was given and not you. Sometimes people are too harsh when critiquing work. I hope you get over your insecurities.
Thank you, Natalie. I’m feeling better by putting it out there, and now, putting it away.
If the critics is way harsh I try to move on to what’s constructive, but it’s hard to let some stuff go. This isolation thing is not helping. I miss author talks at indies. Great quote!
Thanks, Adrienne. When a response is all negative, that can be a warning sign. I deleted it.
It’s probably not as bad as you think.
Isolation issues are going to hound everyone for years. Part of why suicides have been so high the last two years.
I know. So sad. We all need to keep reaching out and connecting in whatever ways we can.
Good luck with your play. Criticism is always only an opinion, but negative criticism does make you take a deeper look at your work. I usually feel low when I receive negative reviews or critiques, but then I take up the challenge. I’m sure you will too. And don’t let the negative Nancys get you down.
Thanks, Susan
I saw above that you deleted the criticism, which is good. Some people are not meant to give critiques; they don’t know how to be constructive. All negative feedback means they didn’t even try. Good luck with the play!
Thanks, Shannon. It felt good to let that go.
I enjoyed hearing about the special connection you had with Lois, Mary! I try always to be kind when I critique someone’s creative work, well anything. Twenty-five years of working with young children has ingrained that in me. Another person could read your story and have a very different response. I hope your play is accepted, and if it isn’t, then you can work on it more if you choose to. Wishing you all the best!
Thanks, Louise. I also work with children and know they respond best to encouragement and gentle guidance.
We need constructive criticism to improve, but if a critique is entirely negative, that’s not someone you want to work with. There needs to be a glimmer of light. I would advise not writing off your play but maybe putting it away for a while, then look at it again and get a second opinion.
I’m so sorry that the harsh feedback has left you feeling like a failure. I think that you should send your manuscript to somebody else, for a second critique. Or maybe put the script away for a while.
You are highly creative – and multi-talented too! Please do not let one critique stop your progress.
Sending positive vibes!!
How exciting that you finished and submitted your play! I hope that excitement helps diminish the impact of that overly harsh criticism. Good luck with the festival submission!