Question of the Month: Which one social convention would you get rid of?

QofMbadgeI’m participating in the Question of the Month blog hop, hosted by Michael D’Agostino at A Life Examined. Visit his blog to find a list of other participants, or join.

I’m not exactly sure where he’s going with this. He mentioned the dress code that goes with certain events. We have that here, too, but most of the time people dress very casually, and don’t seem to worry about clothing expectations. My first thought was to write about hair, especially how American women are obsessed with smooth skin. But, you don’t want to read about my hairy legs and bushy eyebrows.

I live in the Midwest and folks here are sometimes hard to read. They don’t always say what they mean, or mean what they say. They’re too polite to tell you that your perfume is too strong, but easily complain about it behind your back. We often say “How are you?” as a greeting, but most of the time you’re expecting a simple, “Fine,” or even “Hi,” back because it’s really not a genuine question. But, sometimes, you’re not fine, and you don’t want to lie, but you don’t want to tell the truth either. Sometimes, a caring person corners you at the grocery store, and asks, with real concern how you are. They know you’re hurting because some sort of tragedy has happened. You appreciate their concern, but you don’t really want to have a meltdown in the dairy section, so you try to say that you’re hanging in there, but then they hug you, and it’s all over. If I’m pointing fingers here, I’m pointing four more right back at me. It’s a common question. Sometimes, I’m expecting the fine, and sometimes, I’m genuinely concerned about the person, but I don’t always think about their fragile emotional state and where we are when I ask. I’m not saying we should necessarily do away with this social convention/question. It would be good, however, if we took more care in asking it.

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Journaling Prompt: So, how are you? If you’re in a safe place, emotionally, write it out or be real with someone today. The holidays aren’t happy and joyful for everyone, not every year. Take care of yourself.