subscribe: Posts | Comments

Jump on the Bike!


You can wait around for years for the “perfect” time to start something new – a relationship, a hobby, learn an instrument, or take a trip. Timing may never seem perfect to you, but when you dare to set your fears aside and banish your need for control, you may find that the time is right to Jump on the bike!

Photo actually taken at Grandma’s restaurant in Duluth, MN

It all started with an innocent question one hot, July day. The Biker Chef and I were enjoying a hamburger at the Half Moon Saloon, and just to make conversation, I asked, “So, have you ever ridden to Yellowstone National Park?” The Chef proceded to describe some of the best rides of his life, out across the Dakotas, up and over the Bear Tooth Pass, and through Yellowstone National Park with its geysers, gorgeous views, and wildlife. We got back to my house where we fired up the laptop and looked at some of the sites online. That’s when he showed me The Medicine Wheel and the pull it has on him. The seed was planted. I thought, I’ll probably go on a big bike trip like that with him next year.

Yellowstone National Park, August 2012

If you’ve read this blog, or have taken a moment to see the blog archive, you will know that I did not wait until 2013 to Jump on the Bike! We took our first big bike trip together this August. I had some hesitation. Number one, I didn’t think I’d be in a relationship again until the kids were grown up and out of the house. I thought it would be too complicated to balance family and a boyfriend and all those entanglements. God, or the universe, had other plans. I didn’t think I’d take a trip so soon into a new relationship. I mean, what would my parents think? What about my kids? Could I really just Jump on the Bike and take time for myself?

It was my oldest son, Bobby, who said, “Sounds like fun.”

“What about the brothers?” I asked. “Won’t it seem like I’m abandoning you?”

My son just looked at me and said, “First of all, we’re not little kids. You’re not abandoning us. You’re getting time away.”

“Well, who will bring them to their football camps and band lessons?”

“I can do that,” said my brilliant and wonderful 18-year-old son.

Wyoming, coming down from the Big Horn Mountains, after visiting the Medicine Wheel

So, I did it. I made the arrangements. I bought the gear. I said, “Yes” to the Biker Chef, and I had the ride of my life. And, today, as I reflect on life, I am happy that I did.  Just this week, I attended the funeral of a wonderful man who was just 52 when he discovered a brain tumor and died five months later. He was Bobby’s Confirmation mentor with a caring and giving spirit. My friend and another Mother of Multiples was diagnosed with inflammatory breast cancer two years ago. She went through aggressive treatment and reconstruction and thought she was on the way to recovery when they found tumors in her brain. They tried to shrink them, but they grew back along with another one. All I can think about is, life is short. We are fragile human beings. We don’t know what tomorrow will bring, or if we’ll even be here. “We could all be one bad intersection or diagnosis away from a major life change.” I used that line in my play, Coffee Shop Confessions.

Stop waiting for the “perfect” time. If you have a dream in your heart, go for it now. Jump on the Bike! You won’t regret it.

People have asked me how it’s going with the Chef. I guess I haven’t updated the journey blog much lately. Here’s my answer: His Harley is parked in my garage, and he’s started leaving his condiments in my fridge. For the first time in my life, I’m worried about hunting season and can’t wait until he comes back out of the woods. I finally have someone who’s there for me, and I’m anticipating the best Christmas ever. Oh, and we’re planning a winter get-away together.


Be safe. Journey on, and Happy Trails!

  1. Mary,

    I’m so happy for you! What a wonderful adventure! And the message in this post is one that has been eating at my mind for some time. We have no idea what life holds for us. We also have no idea how much time we have. It’s time to get off the couch and Jump on the Bike!

    Thank you my dear friend for this encouragement! Have a wonderful week and I’m so glad things are going well for you and Chef.


  2. Great update…so glad I found your blogs (or you found mine…LOL) Life is definitely too short and those of us who get a second time around really appreciate that. Keep living life to the fullest!

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

Pin It on Pinterest

Share This
Back To Top