Quote of the Day: Perfect is a word used to describe something that doesn’t exist. I used this line for the character Lolly in my play, Coffee Shop Confessions, when she is counseling one of the other women.
The title for one of my next plays is Kitchen Table Confessions. First “Kitchen Table” confession. I have clutter. I don’t keep a neat and tidy house. I have boxes from our move, a few years ago, that I have never opened. Someone dropped off SIX boxes of music two years ago that had belonged to her grandmother, now deceased, who was a piano teacher. I open them, look inside, feel overwhelmed, and shove them back in the corner behind the piano.
Why am I confessing all this? We’re having a graduation party for my son in less than two weeks. I’m trying really hard NOT to be one of those crazy nuts women who have to repaint the whole house, redo the bathroom, and tear apart every closet. I don’t have the time nor the energy to do all that!
Yesterday, the boys and I set out to clean the garage. Okay, “Garage” confessions from the mouth of one of my babes, “Mom gets cranky when she works.” (Thanks, Charlie) We had all the stuff dragged out onto the the driveway. Then, the thunder boomed. I yelled said, “Quick! bring back in the things that we don’t want to get wet.” Got that done, and the rain stopped. So, we’re sweeping and stacking and sorting, and I look at Bobby and turn it over to him. He said, “When I clean, I usually throw stuff away.” Well, the garbage can was emptied that morning, so I said, “Good. Here you go.” A few minutes later, Bobby disappeared and a water bomb hit Charlie. I scolded suggested that they have their water fight after the work was done. After I snapped at someone for playing with the toys in the garage, I decided it was time for me to go inside and make lunch.
The boys did a fantastic job. Later, I chatted with my neighbor through the window and said, “It really is ridiculous that we drive ourselves crazy trying to make our homes perfect. It’s like we’re pretending that we don’t have clutter or that we don’t really live here.” Everyone has stuff. We all struggle to manage it. And, really, don’t you feel most at home when you can drop in on a friend on a regular day, bits of their lives strewn about, and the coffee or tea is on? You can kick the shoes out of the doorway, push the paper piles over, and people are relaxed and resting after a full day, and you have a minute to just talk.
Stop trying so hard to pretend to be perfect. Instead, invite people into the daily, the real, the authentic you who is flawed, yet interesting.
Go. Create. Inspire!
Journaling Prompt: Give me your “Kitchen Table” or “Garage” confessions.
I love this Mary, it’s really great. And it makes me feel more comfortable with my lack of organization skills. 😀
I do that everytime. If I know I’m having something with people at my house, I start painting, cleaning and sewing. I get exhausted and then don’t enjoy the event.
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My wife needs to heed this advice. I’d rather people see the way we really live, not some perfect…ideal…unattainable fairy tale! 🙂
“Confessions” are so freeing. When I hear that someone else has boxes and stacks of paper and shoes to push out of the way, but still welcome people into their homes, it makes me feel less self-conscious about my own cluttered lifestyle. Please don’t turn people away from visiting your home because ‘it’s a mess.’ I don’t visit people to critique their housekeeping and I hope others wouldn’t do that to anyone either.
Granny used to say that a neat and organized house, is the sign of a cluttered mind…
Or maybe she said that about a desk, but the point still applies!
Stuff seems to multiply.
We keep our kitchen table clear. Don’t know why since we always eat in front of the TV, but we do.
Perfect exists as an idea that leads us on.
A very appropriate post for me today. After attempting a renovation this weekend, our house is a mess. Right now I’m not worried about perfect, but a little more liveable would be nice.
It’s the house versus home syndrome…
Sometimes you can feel too afraid to walk on the super-spotless floors or sit on the perfectly-puffed-up cushions in somebody’s HOUSE (my mum refers to it as a museum)
I think that a HOME has a “lived-in” atmosphere…
Spot on! I do the frenzy clean if anyone comes over and always apologise for my home when someone drops in unannounced. Yet when I visit friends and they stress about their home, I laugh and tell them not to be silly. I don’t care about that. And it’s true, so why can’t I feel the same about mine?
On the flip side, after moving almost every year for the past 14yrs, often interstate, I have in the last couple of moves finally gotten good at de-cluttering. I can’t tell you how good it feels, and no, I never miss a single thing.
I feel like I have too much stuff. Always in the process of decluttering.
What a perfect post–especially as we cleaned, painted and organized this past weekend. For us it was freeing getting rid of some of the clutter, for me personally, I am hoping that my new desk will help keep my butt in chair so I can write more regularly! My favorite sentence from this blog is “Instead, invite people into the daily, the real, the authentic you who is flawed, yet interesting.” Love it! Actually, going to repost on FB…thanks!
Words of wisdom — oh, why are they so hard to live by? I love the color of your chairs, very Swedish looking.
sometimes that why i like to invite people that we don’t have over very much–it puts a fire in us to get her done!
Haha. You’ve seen my clutter. I’ve seen yours. I think we’re good. 🙂
I kind of like clutter. If I had my way, my house would be as packed as an antique store.
Actually, I don’t have to pretend. I’m perfect in every way.
Actually, I’m only practically perfect in every way.
Actually, that’s Mary Poppins. I confess: Both my head and home are filled with clutter. And I wouldn’t have it any other way.
I am in awe of Bobby’s comment that when he cleans, he usually throws stuff away! I will never be a person who has a place for everything and not a bit of clutter, but I also am learning to release the clutter that is ready to go, ready to be thrown out. I think of it as being hospitable to myself, by having things that I love or need or use surrounding me, rather than stuff that crowds me out.