Quote of the Day: 1 Thessalonians 5:11 (The Message)
9-11God didn’t set us up for an angry rejection but for salvation by our Master, Jesus Christ. He died for us, a death that triggered life. Whether we’re awake with the living or asleep with the dead, we’re alive with him! So speak encouraging words to one another. Build up hope so you’ll all be together in this, no one left out, no one left behind. I know you’re already doing this; just keep on doing it.
(A little finger flair as I accompany my little sister’s beautiful voice at a concert, summer 2009. Music of the ’40s, like Change Partners and Dance, Moon River, and Sisters)
Last summer my little sister, Joy, traveled from her home in Portland, OR to Minnesota to visit and do a concert. She asked me to accompany her. At first, I was excited to do it, but the closer it came, the worse I felt. I had lost my self-confidence and didn’t know where to find it. (Sort of like Little Bo Peep and her sheep.) I’ve been playing the piano since I was seven years old. I started playing for the early morning church service at my little country church when I was in the 7th grade. I accompanied my school choir, countless soloists in voice and band, and yet, I’d lost it. I continued to play even when I didn’t have anything to practice for, while I was having babies, plunking out a few tunes in between feedings and diaper changes. I could always play the piano, no matter what my mood or situation. It’s what saved me from the pit.
Then, I had a few set-backs. My ex-husband used to say that my playing gave him a headache. After I divorced that negative voice, I put myself back out there on the piano bench at my church. I did not get the support there that I needed. In fact, I was literally told that I was not good enough.
NOT GOOD ENOUGH!
Do you know what awful damage those words do? Do you hear them in your own head? Do people in your life say them to you?
They’re wrong. They’re mean. They’re coming from their own damaged souls.
I told my little sister that I couldn’t do it. “Maybe your old accompanist is available,” I said.
“No, Mary,” she said, “You’re the one. I want you to accompany me. You are good enough. You need to be the rock.” The accompanist is the support for the singer. In this case, the singer was the support for the accompanist. My eyes mist up even as I type this.
I’ll be playing piano for Palm Sunday service at a new church where I’m honored, appreciated and told, “Of course, you’ll play.” I was a little nervous about playing. I suggested that someone else might be better equipped. I mean, Palm Sunday is about the most important worship service. It tells the whole story of the One who walked the broken road before us. Who carried our burdens on His shoulders, and who came back from the darkness to reclaim life and give us hope. Who am I to play out that message?
But then, I heard it, the voice that says, “Of course you can.”
Journaling Prompt: Can you be that voice, the rock, that supports another person? Have you heard it? Listen for it. It’s for you, too.
Good for you! I think all creative people feel this, and it’s worse if someone has told you once upon a time that you’re not good enough. Those words are LOUD and they’re hard to ignore or replace.
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It sounds like your new church is filled with more loving Christian hearts than your old one. What a wonderful, sister! I wish I could be there to hear you play and to applaud the beauty of your music, Mary. 🙂
Thanks for your encouraging words, Shannon and Elana!
I’m so glad that you did accompany your sister. I’m sure it meant so much to her, and to you too! Sometimes I think we live up to that others believe of us, and your sister believed in you. As do all of us! Enjoy the beautiful Palm Sunday service.
Man, I think that maybe you should preach the sermon too!!
Thanks, All. I’m feeling lifted up! Hope you do, too.
If you play half as good as you write the angels will be dancing. Hey, I can hear them putting their tap shoes on now!
Thanks, Joey, You’re sweet!
“Of course you can” my dear, and have and will continue to do so courageously! Thanks for being my rock.
Yes. JeMA. Thanks for being that angel voice of confidence!
Mary, believe it or not, you did that for me when I was in tenth grade and we did “You Can’t Take it With You.” I was told I would be no good on stage, and here you gave me the lead! People have so much power in words. It’s how they’re used that makes the difference.
Oh, Beth, and you were so good! Who knows where that confidence will be given. So glad you were brave and went out there despite the negative voices and were able to SHINE!
Ohhh….that makes me mad. I just hate it when people try to make others feel they’re not good enough. Prove them wrong.
I was reading your caption for your picture…Moon River is one of my favorites. 🙂 I loved “Breakfast at Tiffany’s.”
Elizabeth
Mystery Writing is Murder
Thanks, Elizabeth. Your blog is a place where I go to build confidence and get inspired. Moon River was a big hit at the show! It was one of our best numbers.
That’s so beautiful, I hope my daughters stay that close when they’re grown.
You look a natural on the piano.
I feel sorry for the negative people, they are missing out on the opportunity of acting as a muse – that’s so much more rewarding. 🙂
Thanks, Charmaine, for the beautiful comments. I hope your daughters develope a close friendship. I have two sisters, I’m the middle sister, and we can really talk to each other. They’re good.
Never EVER give up, Girlfriend, on something you love to do because some stupid person tells you to. You will have the best time this Sunday.
Teresa
Mary, these words are so encouraging! And thank you for your encouragement that is always to be found here. Your comment yesterday meant a lot! I’m looking forward to sharing script notes with you in a month. Best of luck with the play! Clinking my coffee mug right back at you!!!
Happy Friday and Cheers indeed!
Jen
believe in yourself, sweetheart. you’ll get it back.
You live in Minnesota? I have a sister-in-law up there. somewhere.
Praise GOD, Mary!!! LOVE, LOVE this post and pray that God will use it to encourage many.
Mary, you kinda nailed for me the parts of the body scripture. When a church works, toenails are willing to be toenails, heads are willing to be heads, each coordinating efforts for work to flow, fueled by the Holy Spirit.
Have a blessed weekend!
Patti
Thanks, Patti. I’ve always been drawn to that part of scripture that explains that all parts are valued.
Hooray for your supportive sister and hooray for your courage. we all run into nay sayers in our lives … people who simply don’t have a clue. It’s important to learn to rise above and keep trying. Not always easy, but important.
thanks for sharing and for this reminder.
Mary, you are not alone. We all have discouragers in our lives. Yes, have the courage to stay true to yourself and do what you love to do, no matter what others say.
Thanks, Qin, for those encouraging words.