Quote of the Day: Cleaning your house while your kids are still growing is like shoveling the walk before it stops snowing! – Phyllis Diller
In case you were wondering what it looks like to be covered in Love, look at us all snuggled up on the Loveseat at Grandpa and Grandma’s house during our New Year’s/Christmas celebration. Sometimes I am overwhelmed by motherhood! And, yes, I let the dust settle, and the bathroom mirrors get spotty, and organize with less panic. We’re a busy bunch.
I used this photo as the header of my holiday letter, which I wrote on Jan. 3, will pick up at the printers today, and send out some time during the next week. There’s no deadline for quality correspondence. I received my share of holiday letters and photos of smiling families, and I’ll have to say, that when someone wrote a personal note on the card or letter, I felt like they really wanted to stay connected and cared. The smiling faces with no words seemed a little fake. As in, “Look at us, we’re one big smiling family. No worries here.” Why is it so hard for people to be real?
The day I went into the lawyer’s office for our “Settlement Agreement” conference, I couldn’t get this song out of my head: “Bye bye love. Bye bye happiness. Hello loneliness. I feel like I could cry.” I was subconsciously singing it out loud, and the boy in the purple up there said, “How can you be lonely, Mom. You’ve got all of us.”
Thank you, Charlie. I needed to hear that then, two years ago now, and I need to be reminded of it every day. I am not alone. I have those four guys to love and care for and they love and care for me in their own loud and messy boy way. And, God sends people into my life when I need them most.
The other night, we were playing songs on the piano. Charlie took a turn, then Eric found my old Disney song book. We stayed up past bedtime singing and laughing. All of us, even the big one. It was totally worth the sleepy, slow start we had the next day because of our late night carousing.
This year, my goal is to be more focused. I can be so scatter-brained. I check out, mentally, during conversations. I plan dinner while I’m working out. I think about writing while playing the piano and playing piano while I write. I start to declutter one area, move into another, and forget why I went there in the first place, and I get overwhelmed by the tasks that pile up and feel like my sole responsibility.
Focus, Mary, I say, and by the end of the year, many of those goals and aspirations will be accomplished. Tune in next January for the results.
My new song, at least right now, is Bridge Over Troubled Water, “…Sail on silver girl, sail on by, your time has come to shine, all your dreams are on their way, see how they shine.”
Journaling prompt: Who or what builds you up when you’re feeling down?
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PS: When I googled to verify the Quote of the Day, I was linked to “Online Organizing (dot) com.” There are no coincidences!
You do have your hands full with four boys, Mary! I think boys are wonderful – so much easier than girls in so many ways. 🙂
I love the family photo, and I love your positive outlook for this year. Yay you!
Thanks, Shannon. I have much to be thankful for.
Mary, cute photo, which reminds me…send me your address! I know, I should have it memorized after living there for a week, but alas, I don’t and lost my address book this summer when my computer was cleaned out — to excess. I’m late with my greetings too but I agree, there are no deadlines when keeping in touch with the special people in our lives. Sweet post — another good one. I don’t there’s been a one that hasn’t been edifying. You’re on a roll!
Oh, Mary, what a wonderful post. 🙂 I LOVE the name of your blog, BTW…as I so often DO ‘play off the page’. 🙂
What feeds me is quiet time with my family. I’m an admitted introvert…I have to gear up for events which involve a lot of unknown people. I’m friendly and I hope approachable, but it’s not my comfort zone. I really like to be in the heart of my home with “my people”.
God bless you and have a wonderful Wednesday evening!
What a beautiful family photo, looks like you all had a great holiday! Family does it for me too, always there, always supportive 🙂
Thanks, Joanne. We’re always busy making memories.
You are certainly covered in love in that photo. Be reminded always, you are covered in love by your other family members, your life friends, your blogger friends (me) and God (who fills our every need).
That’s is the best picture ever! Good post mary!
Thank you, All. I’m feeling your loving embraces right now.
What a beautiful post! I’ve been there and it’s always been my two girls who pick me up, being with the kids lets us act like a kid when we need to.
I’m also a scatter-brain and don’t do well with day to day life paperwork (who knew just living in society involved so much organising?). The plus side is when I force myself to focus I go extreme in the opposite direction and have projects fine tuned, so let the little things get muddled – who cares? Save the thinking energy for the big projects.
Love reading your blog.
Oh, Mary, what a wonderful photo! Love beams! And you will have four daughters-in-law and grandchildren and the love will just grow and grow, like a field of flowers. Hugs, K.
I’m feeling the warmth of your words! Thanks for the image of the garden.
So glad you visited the Inkwell today, Mary and hope you visit my personal blog at http://www.pattilacy.com/blog.
Your family photo warms ;my soul and I love your saying about clean houses.
There’s also an old one–something connecting dullness to shiny houses!!! LOL
My daughter never fails to lift me up.
My goal is to be more focused, too!
Sometimes we need tools to help us focus. My reading glasses often do the trick!
Mary, I just wanted to check back and see how you/family are doing in this Deep Freeze. I have a dear friend from Minneopolis who says weather like this can be Most Challenging. Anyway, each night, without fail, my hub and I see International Falls and go Wow…That’s COLD! We’re just having very cold weather here in Virginia. Our fear is not so much the weather, it’s the pipes. They aren’t deep enough and sometimes freeze and burst. But, ahhh, it’s going to be a glorious spring!
Kittie, thanks for stopping back to check in. The deep freeze can be tough, physically and emotionally. We’re surviving. I’ll have another blog soon on writing and stir-fry. Keep running warm water through those pipes!
Hi Mary…I’ve been thinking about you and checked your blog today. You are an inspiration! Remember…it’s “mind over matter”, if you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter!!
Oh, that devil-demon FOCUS! So often eludes me! I have to focus very hard to gain focus. Often times, not only my crazy schedule – but characters and plot ideas wanting to spill out!
I’m a list person. I make lists of what I need to get done that week, day, etc….and I email it to myself so I can have the list on my phone. It does help me. I think we all have to find our own way and what works for us.